I remember when my son was about 4 years old, we were sitting in a restaurant in Marina del Rey, California and a woman approached our table. She was so smitten with my son and wanted him to interview for an Oscar Meyer commercial. My husband and I were so excited!!! We were going to have a star on our hands and he would make lots of money. She told us to bring a head shot, so I quickly suited him up and snapped this photo of him. I mean, look at those eyes, we had a star on our hands for sure.
Unfortunately, when we arrived at the interview my son clammed up on us. He would not talk, he would not repeat the lines, he wanted to hide his face in my skirt, and I don’t care how much I prodded him and pleaded, nor how much the talent agent tried, he wouldn’t do it. Now, this was a once in a lifetime opportunity. They found him, they wanted him, it was not a casting call, it was a private interview.
Needless to say, no commercial, no star, no money. Acting was not for him, and while he was a star in our eyes and would always be, outside of his adorable looks, he could not pull off what they were looking for at the time.
By “It” factor (personality), I mean your child must be unafraid to speak, to answer questions. They must be able to repeat lines and speak clearly when communicating. They should display some confidence and energy and be willing to engage with adults and be somewhat outspoken. Are these skills that can be learned, definitely, but until they are, it is unrealistic to think your child can be a star, at least not right away.
So what do you do? You begin by allowing your child to participate in as many activities as possible that can help develop their personality, build their confidence, and shape and contribute to their development. It can be tough being a kid today in this world of perfection, so it is important to help your child become well-rounded through both social and emotional learning.